Ask Mrs. McVeigh

“Watch the bride through your own eyes—not the lens of your iPhone’s camera.”

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Dear Mrs. McVeigh,

It had been several years since I attended a wedding, until last weekend. I was very surprised to see everyone get out their cell phones and take pictures, as the bride was walking down the aisle. Do you think this is okay? –K.S.S.

Dear K.S.S.,

I do not think that this is good etiquette. A professional (or designated) photographer was probably present, so the bride and groom did not need anyone else taking pictures. A bride walking down the aisle is one of those moments that friends and family need to watch through their own eyes, and not through their phone’s camera. Especially in a church, this seems very disrespectful. Wedding ceremonies are formal occasions, no matter what the venue, and photography should wait until after the ceremony.

Highland Park resident Elise McVeigh is the founder of Mrs. McVeigh’s Manners and Elise McVeigh’s Life Camp, taking a unique approach to teaching manners to young children and university-aged students in a fun and effective way. She also gives seminars to parents on how to teach manners to their children. Follow Elise McVeigh on Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest, and LinkedIn, and Mrs. McVeigh’s Manners or Elise McVeigh’s Life Camp on Facebook.

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